Can we get honest for a second — on this Thursday in October, Friend?

The dopamine hit you’re reaching for — whether it’s sugar, a glass of wine, the Amazon cart, a weed gummy, porn, or that endless scroll —
it’s not really about pleasure.

It’s about control.

In a world that feels so out of control…
where the future is uncertain,
and the path ahead looks overgrown and unclear,
those quick hits give us a momentary sense of direction.

And oh, the sweet relief of that — the rush of “I’ve got this because I can give this hit of pleasure to myself.”

But quick fixes aren't the problem either.
We don’t have to live a life without them.

Here’s the illusion of control I want you to hear me on:

If you use escapism to feel in control,
you might eventually lose control to the escape.

Not because you’re weak.
But because you’re chasing the feeling of safety.

And those dopamine hits — they don’t calm the body.
They numb it.

🌿 Real control comes from regulation.

From being able to guide yourself back to calm when everything feels like too much.

When you can regulate instead of react,
you don’t just survive chaos —
you create from clarity instead of crisis.

Sorry to toot my own horn for a second…
but after nine months of consistent practice,
I’ve built a body that knows how to come back to calm — no matter what.

Really, I built Homebody to survive grief.
To find safety when my world didn’t feel safe — or certain.

When I began studying Meridian Yoga Therapy with Dr. Erin Rose, I learned that for 3,000 years traditional chinese medicine has shown:

Emotions don’t just live in the mind — they live in the body.
They’re stored and expressed through the organs and meridians.

Fear tightens the back body.
Grief collapses the chest.
Anger knots the ribs and side body.

(I'm about to tell you how I'm living proof Friend - so stay with me!)

And when emotions aren’t moved through, the body holds them —
turning emotional pain into physical tension (and vice versa).

That’s not “woo.” That’s neurobiology.

When we feel unsafe, cortisol floods the body, cutting off blood flow and breath.
Movement, breath, and acupressure reawaken those pathways, - and breath and intention can send the message: It’s safe to relax now.

💫 From grief to growth

Let's get one thing straight.

When my brother died - nothing physically happened to my body — yet my body had a full visceral physical reaction AND IT REPEATED THE PHYSICAL REACTION on the god damn anniversary one year later.

My hamstrings shortened.
My back locked.
My shoulders carried the cliffs of moher.
My heart shut down and shut out.

Felt like I got hit by a freight train and run over by a truck.

I didn’t need to push harder or to become skinnier or more even more toned on a reformer (which is brilliant physical rehabilitation but does nothing for my nervous system).

Because to open my heart, back body, side body and front body, I needed a safe and strong foundation.

I needed a calm body and a strong mind - consistently.

That’s what we do in Homebody — build lasting calm from the inside out.

🌕 This week in Homebody

We are breathing deeper into the Lung Meridian — the energetic home of grief, loss, and release - which is about purification as a means of self liberation.

Your sadness isn’t weakness — it’s breath you haven’t released.

When the lungs are blocked, breath shortens and energy sinks.
When we move and breathe with intention,
we’re not just expanding the chest — we’re exhaling what the body’s been holding.

I found working with the lung meridian to be deeply profound.

Yes, it is hard to sit with sadness but when you breathe into it and allow the tears to pass - the liberation on the other side is life-altering.

Thanks for being here today and hearing me out on how -

Every breath is a quiet act of courage.

Every breath is a quiet act of embodied control.

What does this bring up for you?
What would you love to know more about?

You’re welcome to join us TODAY — live or on replay — create from clarity and calm instead of crisis.