Now, in Part Two, I’m excited to share the five core beliefs that have fuelled my growth, resilience, and ability to lead with both strength and kindness - qualities I know you value as you strive for excellence without sacrificing well-being.
1. We All See the World Differently
One of the most liberating shifts in my leadership journey was truly understanding that everyone brings a unique lens to their work. Early in my career, I struggled to grasp how others could see things so differently. Today, I embrace this diversity of perspective as a strength, reminding myself (and my clients) that what feels obvious to one is not always so for another. This belief is the foundation for open, productive conversations and more effective collaboration.
2. Everyone Is Doing Their Best With What They Have
I learnt this in my NLP training and it has helped me - and the leaders I coach - replace frustration with empathy. When we accept that people act based on their experiences, knowledge, and resources, we create space for growth rather than criticism. As Maya Angelou said, “Do your best until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Let’s extend that same compassion to ourselves as we learn and evolve.
3. People Are Well-Intended
Assuming positive intent transforms how we engage with our teams. Even when actions don't land well, I’ve found that believing in the good intentions beneath the surface allows us to lead with curiosity and openness, rather than suspicion or defensiveness. This mindset fosters trust and creates a culture where feedback and learning thrive.
4. You Are Exactly Where You’re Supposed to Be Right Now
Patience and acceptance have become essential tools in my leadership toolkit. Whether stuck in traffic or navigating organisational change, I remind myself - and encourage you - to trust the process. Every experience, even the challenging ones, is an opportunity for growth.
5. What Annoys Us in Others Is Often an Opportunity for Self-Reflection
Our triggers can be our greatest teachers. When something frustrates you about a colleague or team member, pause and ask: “What is this showing me about myself?” This inward focus not only accelerates your development but also dissolves unnecessary conflict.
As you continue your own leadership journey, I invite you to reflect on these beliefs.
They have empowered me to lead with intention, maintain strong boundaries, and cultivate high-performing, engaged teams-outcomes I know you seek.
Thank you for celebrating this milestone with me. Here’s to the next decade of leading with strength, kindness, and unwavering purpose.
Shelley 😃
