“I can feel when something isn’t right for me," she told me,… "but I still override myself."

"Why do you think you do that?", I asked.

She answered, "I don't want anyone to be upset with me."

She was silent for a moment and then said,

“I just want a way to protect myself without hurting anyone.”

This is often the scary thing about setting boundaries, right?

You want boundaries…

but you don’t want conflict.

You want honesty…

but you don’t want to create discomfort.

You want space…

but you don’t want to make anyone feel bad.

But the thing is...

You can protect yourself without hardening yourself.

You can honour your needs without harming your relationships.

You can feel safe without withdrawing or pretending.

You can exist without apologising.

Boundaries don’t have to feel like harsh edges.

They can feel like an exhale.

They can feel like home.

This is the work we’re doing this month in The Portal - learning how to listen inward and set loving, gentle boundaries.

And you’re already beginning to do this too.

By reading these Wednesday Letters.

And honouring one whisper.

One pause.

One tiny moment of truth at a time.

That’s how all the good things start.

If you, or someone you know, needs to learn how to set loving boundaries in a gentle, caring space, join us in The Portal of Permission  today.

If you loved yourself, how would you honour yourself now?