This is my story of how God took the wreckage of my life, redeemed it, and is now using it to help other men find freedom.
At age seven, while my parents’ marriage was coming apart, I was molested, teaching me to hide and planting deep shame in my heart. I covered up the pain I felt by striving to perform. I became skilled at pleasing people, appearing fine on the outside, and at hiding brokenness on the inside.
In eighth grade, I met Jesus at summer camp and felt internal peace for the first time. Yet beneath the surface, shame continued to shape my thoughts and choices. It followed me into adulthood as I became a husband, a father and as I pursued a career in ministry. I continued to strive and perform. Outwardly I looked good, but inwardly I still struggled with my secret sin.
This went on for ten years until in 2005 my life collapsed into a pile of rubble. In one day, all pretense was stripped away as my secret sin was brought to light. The lies that I had been living with for decades destroyed my marriage, my family and career. But truthfully it had only exposed who I truly was by shattering my false identity.
Isolation followed my divorce until God, in His mercy, led me to Pure Life Ministries.
I entered the Overcomer’s At-Home Program broken, devastated, and desperate for hope. Pure Life stepped into my wreckage and began teaching me who God says I am. They helped me give shame a name and bring it to the cross. They didn’t try to simply repair what was broken—they led me to the One who could make me new.
Through His Word and the Holy Spirit, God began to rewrite my identity—not in sin, failure, or my past, but in Christ alone. The chains that bound me were broken, and that truth set me free.
PLM didn’t just offer me a program or a quick fix; they gave me tools to walk in daily repentance, renew my mind, and live in the freedom God intended. For the past 20 years, I’ve been learning to surrender daily and walk in grace. It hasn’t always been easy. The journey has had challenges, but God’s presence has been constant and faithful.
Recently, a young man who was headed down the same destructive path I had gone down came to me at his wife’s urging. I introduced him to Pure Life because of the impact it had in my life all those years ago. He embraced the hard work of heart restoration, trusted the process and submitted himself to the PLM team. This may have very well saved his marriage and family.
I will always be grateful to Pure Life Ministries for stepping into the places of shame and desolation in my life so that God could do the work in my heart to fully redeem me.