Hey Friend,
This message I am sharing with you now has gone a little bit viral on Facebook since I posted it on Friday and so far, it has reached over 51,000 people.
So before I headed off to bed, I wanted to share it with you too because clearly, this is something that so many of us with chronic illness struggle with.
So here’s the thing Friend,
The only one who can really understand how much chronic illness has changed your life, is someone else with chronic illness.
The grief you feel is not validated, accepted or understood by those around you, even in the medical community, because it is often just as invisible as the illness you live with.
Unless you have experienced chronic illness, its almost impossible to understand or relate to because after all, you generally “look ok.”
You can get so caught up in needing people to understand how it feels, especially those closest to you and when they can’t, it can feel like such a blow to the spirit and even, like a betrayal.
So let go of the need for them to understand.
They can’t. Not truly.
Focus instead on what is most important: that they respect the new boundaries that you now need to put in place, to protect your health and your energy.
Be as factual as you can, without needing to justify your choices.
Do not apologise for the illness because it is not your fault.
Instead, explain clearly what you can and cannot do.
If you get caught up in needing them to understand, it will end up damaging your relationships because you feel hurt, unloved and judged.
Which will make you put more emotional distance between you and make you feel even more alone.
You know how you feel.
You do not need to convince anyone else.
People who love you will be willing to respect the boundaries you set and any limitations you have when you can communicate them clearly and consistently.
You are worth it and you absolutely deserve it.
Now if you are struggling and you need emotional support, you will find the link to my EA Support group on Facebook at the bottom of this email.
If you are sick of feeling guilty, anxious, depressed, overwhelmed and struggling to deal with all of the emotional challenges and trauma that can go along with getting chronic illness, then I have space right now to take on 6 new clients in July.
We will get you over the trauma, out of the overwhelm, give you a solid new emotional framework to eliminate your guilt, learn how to communicate and feel so much more like the old you.
In fact, that is exactly what my client Marlies told me in her feedback at the end of our work together.
"My confidence in myself slowly came back during the sessions. The biggest change is that I feel as if I came back to being my old normal self. I am relaxed, much more confident, worry less and care much less about what others think. I think more positive and get less affected by other people’s negative talk. I can dance in the rain again!
The comfort of talking to someone who knows, who understands was a completely new experience for me which helped me a lot. The amount of weight that could get off my shoulders I did not expect."
Friend, if you could get rid of just one major trauma or eliminate your guilt or know how to talk to your partner and set boundaries without any anxiety or conflict, how much would that change your life?
I would love to meet you online for your FREE 25 Minute Discovery Session so book yours in now using the link here.
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