Happy September, Friend!
As I sat down to write to you today, I began reflecting on how reframing thoughts have really helped me shift from feeling like I was in constant struggle to feeling like life is a grand adventure of successes.
Before we get to reframes and why they work, let’s make sure you know what I mean when I talk about reframing.
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To reframe a thought is to shift it by thinking about your thought in a new way.
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Let’s say I’m thinking about how much I miss the sunshine on a rainy day (which is the case right now).
My brother-in-law gave me a lovely reframe for this when I mentioned it to him. He said, “Those are days when we get to make our sunshine from the inside!”
Pretty good eh? While rainy days are still my most challenging weather days, I now have a fabulous way to look at them.
I used to reframe rainy days by saying, “The Mother just need the rain,” and that helped me a bit. But his reframe works even better for me.
Now rainy days are opportunities for me to make sunshine from the inside.
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With reframing, you still have your moments of struggle. You just don’t let yourself linger in them.
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It is important for me to note that there are times when you should not rush to a reframing thought.
When you are feeling pain that is deep and real, it might be very important to honor the anger or sorrow by expressing it in a productive way.
When it comes to anger, I have not personally found venting to be productive. It might be a way to justify my anger and blame, but it doesn’t clear the energy.
However, creating a sacred space in which to sound my anger or drum my anger (with the drum’s permission), exercising or dancing (with care for my body), walking or running, and even writing or drawing, are a few ways in which I can safely release the energy behind the anger. Using The Holding guided meditation is my favorite.
I’ve used all these approaches equally well with sorrow and grief, too.
It’s important to make sure you end the session in a peaceful state so that the anger or sorrow is resolved in you and in your home.
Honoring difficult feelings, rather than trying to shut them down because they are uncomfortable, brings respect to your life experiences and, therefore, the wisdom that is behind your feelings. |
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Reframing is useful when you have a persistent thought that tends to drag you down.
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I discovered the power of reframing when I realized I had negative thoughts and beliefs that would come up whenever things got tough in my life.
They were thoughts in which I was:
- Beating myself up
- Assuming I wasn’t good enough
- Presumed I was a failure
- Resenting my feelings of helplessness
I would perseverate on thoughts that made me feel bad about myself. Perseverating is when you get stuck on something in your mind that seems difficult to shift.
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What I discovered is that reframing helped me actually change those thoughts.
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Let’s use our rainy day example. Here’s a thought I used to perseverate on:
Rainy days make me feel depressed. I hate rainy days.
Imagine thinking that every half hour or so throughout the course of a rainy day?
I could end a day feeling absolutely depressed and helpless, and all because it was raining outside!
I had been using reframes for rainy days for many year, but my brother-in-law’s reframe really flipped the switch on turning dreary days into inner-world adventures.
Now I can be quite successful creating sunshine from the inside out.
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So, when do you use a reframing thought?
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Use a reframing thought the moment you hear yourself thinking something that is going to make you feel bad, especially if this is a thought you tend to have repeatedly.
Now that you know when to reframe, it helps to understand how!
In this article, I share 10 Steps for Reframing Your Thoughts:
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Just scroll to the bottom of the article to read the 10 Steps!
Holding you in your new, reframed thoughts, |
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Enjoy These Free Resources for Reframing Your Thoughts
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10 Beliefs That Can Short-Circuit Your Healing
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In this free PDF from Misa, you’ll discover 10 beliefs that can lock you into an unfriendly universe, when it comes to your healing.
Plus Misa provides you with clues for turning unfriendly beliefs into friendlier ones:
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Video: Discover two powerful ways to use The Holding guided meditation to:
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1) Release pain and fear
2) Manifest your deepest dreams and desires
At the end of the video, Misa takes you into a Holding Meditation focused on manifesting your desires:
(This is the video Misa created for Juliana’s telesummit, but was not available to everyone.)
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This Week's Favorite Prescription from Heaven
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Prescriptions from Heaven are free daily reminders that there is a power living inside you—Heavenly power—able to transform your challenges into health, happiness and prosperity.
Each weekday morning, Heaven will send you a digital postcard with a brief personalized inspirational message to start your day right.
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