25 Now great multitudes were going with Jesus. He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to me, and doesn’t disregard his own father, mother, wife, children, brothers, and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he can’t be my disciple. 27 Whoever doesn’t bear his own cross, and come after me, can’t be my disciple. 28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, doesn’t first sit down and count the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it? 29 Or perhaps, when he has laid a foundation, and is not able to finish, everyone who sees begins to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build, and wasn’t able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, as he goes to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends an envoy, and asks for conditions of peace. 33 So therefore whoever of you who doesn’t renounce all that he has, he can’t be my disciple”

Luke 14:15-24 - World English Bible

In these few verses, Jesus explained the cost of being a disciple: his primacy in one's life and the willingness to suffer for him. His place rated over that of family and even the self; accepting the possibility of ridicule and persecution measured that list of priorities. He told two parables to flesh out the seriousness of that commitment: planning a farm silo and preparing for battle. A farmer doesn't build a place for surplus grain without considering the cost, otherwise he risks being called a fool. A king doesn't go to war without a battle plan, otherwise he could lose his kingdom. To become a disciple, then, meant denunciation, making all things and all people secondary to Christ. Such denial had a symbol, the cross, and a question: was the person willing to pick up his cross to follow Jesus?

How is Christ first in your life?