Hey Friend,

How are you today? Fantastic, I hope!

I was talking to a client the other day and what she mentioned seems to be a theme in the lives of many women I speak with, so I thought you might appreciate my perspective.

You see, one thing I notice women doing is beating themselves up if they aren't "productive" all the time.

They tell me they can't EVER allow themselves to chill on the sofa while the dishes are in the sink or the laundry needs folding. They drive themselves as if someone was keeping tabs on the task-list.

Now I'm not proposing that you let your house go and let everything pile up until it becomes a hoarding situation 😂; that would cause you much more anxiety than is worth. I AM saying that while you have housework or office work to do, it should NOT have you.

Being obsessed with everything having to be perfect on the outside is NOT healthy for you or your psyche.

Being able to tolerate a little visual chaos without going immediately to the 'task' when something is NOT in order is the sign of a relaxed mind and strong emotional intelligence.

Some clients have expressed that they feel lazy or worthless if they are NOT on top of things at all times. They push themselves as hard as the insatiable step-mother pushed Cinderella, only this time, the pressure is self-inflicted.

It would help if you trusted that giving yourself a break does NOT mean that you will turn into a couch potato overnight. It means that you trust yourself enough to know that what needs to get done WILL get done and that it's OK if it does NOT get done right now, this very moment. It shows that you respect yourself enough to know that your worth is NOT tied to perfection at all times and at all costs.

A balanced life is when you work hard, but you can also give yourself grace when you need it.

So next time you're exhausted or feel the need to put your feet up, don't stress about the dishes in the sink or the kid's toys scattered around. Know that at that moment, an act of self-love may be to allow yourself the grace you need knowing that what needs to be done will be there for you when you have recharged.

Now that is giving yourself Grace.

To you giving yourself GRACE Friend ☺