Right after someone confesses a dream to me, the next thing they usually tell me is aaaaalllll the many reasons they cannot do, or have this dream.
It sounds like this;
"What I really want is .... but I can't because ....."
"If I had enough money / time I would .... but obviously that's not possible because ...."
Do you also find yourself saying things like that?
My dear cousin Itai Disraeli once told me how his amazing band creates their Grammy Award-winning music.
He said, "First we say Yes. When someone in the band suggests something, we first say yes, then we try it out and see how it comes out."
That's SUCH a different attitude than what most of us are taught, right?
Especially when it comes to our own wishes and desires.
We usually say No first.
"No. I want to but I can't because..."
I want to suggest you try something out.
This week (or this lifetime), try an experiment to say 'Yes' to yourself.
Imagine you are a beloved child that you adore looking after!
Like this:
"Oh, honey you're tired and you want to rest? Ok, yes. Of course you must rest if that's what you feel you need. Let's see how we can make it happen for you. It's 1.30pm and you have two back-to-back meetings coming up. Hmmmm, let's think... Ok, you have 15 minutes before the first meeting starts. Let's lock the door to the office/ go to the bathroom/ step out into the garden and sit/ lie and breathe for 7 minutes."
"What? You don't want to go to the party this evening? Ok yes. If you don't want to, we need to figure it out. Ok let's think. You already told them you are attending.... Hmmmm... What is it you don't want exactly? Oh you don't mind going out but you don't want to have a late night, or eat stuff you'll feel bad about tomorrow and you know that you will with this crowd. Ok, so how about you eat something healthy before you go, so that you're not hungry and it'll be easier to control your food choices. Then you make sure to arrive on time and let them know right away you will have to leave early. Then you relax and have fun with them and allow yourself to leave at a time that feels good to you?"
So the formula is:
Request / expression of desire or need = Yes, of course my love. = Let's figure out how to do it.
What does that sound like to you?
Does it seem possible?
Are you willing to give it a try this week and see what it's like?
You can just reply to this email during the week and let me know how it's going :)
If you loved yourself, what would you say Yes to now?
