Someone in The Portal community shared a glorious moment of boundary-setting with us.
She spoke up in a group about what she preferred.
And then when someone didn't listen, she said it again, more firmly.
It seems like such an obvious easy thing to do when I say it like that.
But in the moment, it can feel really scary.
What if they don't like me?
What if they judge me?
What if they don't want me in the group anymore...
Scary thoughts.
She began her share with "I think this is a brick moment ..."
She was referring to our saying that 'your choices are the building blocks of your life'.
Each choice you make is creating your future experiences.
You build your life brick by brick, choice by choice.
This was my reply to her in The Portal and I want to share it with you too:
"Definitely a Brick moment! Because you built your life in a certain way when you did that. She will not be talking about that again in your presence - and probably nobody else will either. So in that group you will now have safety from a topic you don’t like. And you took a position and held it which makes people pay attention and take you more seriously. So your life will reflect being considered more and being treated with more respect.
How’s THAT for laying a brick?
It’s these tiny moments that hold the power for the life we want. We think it’s the big dramatic choices that count most but it’s these small moments that really hold the power."
Remember that as you head into the final week of this year.
Next time you are wondering whether to say something or not...
Or to honour your needs or not...
Or to look after yourself or not...
It's the small, little choices that build your life.
Ask yourself,
"What will this small choice create for future me?
And do I like that - or not?"
If you want support to set your own boundaries and set up a wonderful future for yourself, join us in The Portal of Permission.
Or gift yourself one of my books for Christmas or New Years.
If you loved yourself, what small brick will you lay for your future self now?
