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Running out of reslience? |
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Hi Friend,
The world is a completely uncertain place right now, isn't it?
Here where I live in Melbourne, we are almost four weeks into stage 4 lockdown, the most restrictive Covid response in any part of Australia.
- You need a permit to travel out of your area for work.
- Face masks are compulsory when you are out in public.
- No public or private gatherings are permitted.
- No being outside to exercise for longer than an hour per day.
- You can only shop up to 1.5 kilometres (less than a few miles) from where you live and only one member per household can shop once a day.
It's tough and people are starting to fray around the edges and it is perfectly understandable.
We human beings are incredibly adaptable as you are so well aware because chronic illness requires so much change and adaptation, but in order to stay resilient, we need a framework.
We need a "new normal" so that we can create routine and structure and some form of certainty in our lives.
But all of the certainty, routine and structure we had in place at a world wide level is gone right now, so Friend if you are feeling anxious, depressed, traumatised and like you have lost all of your resilience, you are not alone.
It's absolutely normal to be feeling like you can't cope with another thing right now, especially when you are dealing with chronic illness on top of everything else.
Which makes learning new emotional skills, eliminating any anxiety and trauma and overcoming your depression even more important now than ever before as the world shifts into its "new normal."
So I want to invite you Friend to book in your FREE Discovery Session with me to meet up online with you, learn what challenges you are facing right now and find out exactly how I can help you become more stronger, calmer, confident and resilient than ever before.
You can read how I helped Roberta below.
Payment plans are available for both Australian and International clients. |
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| *Roberta had been living with multiple chronic conditions for decades, one of which now meant that she had to be on oxygen 24/7.
That was the last straw for Roberta.
Being dependent on her oxygen canister was such a visible sign of how bad her health had become and how much she had lost, that it sent her spiralling down into a deep depression.
It was actually Roberta's husband who contacted me first. He had heard me speaking on a podcast about my own experiences with chronic illness and my grief model and hoped I could do something to help his wife.
He was scared and desperate, he could see her slipping a little further away each day and there was nothing he could do to help pull her back into her life again.
I told him that Roberta would have to take the initiative to speak to me because I needed to see if I could help her firstly, and secondly, I can only work with people who are ready to commit to learning new skills and doing things differently.
I met up with Roberta a week later and she confided in me that she just didn't feel that she had the strength for another battle with her body and illnesses.
She had been fighting hard for years to be well enough for the graduation and marriages of her children, the births of her Grandchildren and to spare her husband the stress he felt at seeing her so sick.
She hated being on oxygen, hated how weak and sick and dependent she felt and had lost all interest in the things that used to give her life meaning.
Roberta felt like she was marking time and waiting to die, even though her diseases were not terminal. She told me that she felt like she had lost the will to live.
So I asked Roberta how she would feel about a process where you don't have to fight the illness, where your body is not the enemy and where we focussed on giving her new skills to make the most of where she is now and see how much of life was still available for her to enjoy?
I explained how I use hypnotherapy to find and remove any trauma or negative beliefs that keep people stuck in depression and anxiety and that we could get rid of all the guilt she was carrying because she felt like a burden to her husband and family.
I also told her that I don't do "traditional" talk based therapy and I would walk her through exactly how to change, step by step with 100% support all the way.
Roberta took a month to think it through and with her husbands support and encouragement, she made the commitment to work with me.
We included her husband in the first session so they could both learn their new emotional framework and communication techniques so that they were both on the same page and Roberta took all of the tools I gave her and used every single one!
The depression and guilt were the first things we got rid of and she felt so much better. As she described it "I feel lighter inside, those things just don't bother me now."
Rather that fighting the illnesses and resenting her oxygen, Roberta began to practice acceptance and found gratitude for the good that was still in her life and began to appreciate just how resilient her body actually was and that it was always doing its best for her.
I shared with her about another client I had worked with who was also on oxygen and how she had given her oxygen container a name and Roberta loved that idea!
She decided to call her oxygen tank "ironsides" from an old tv show she used to enjoy so her oxygen went from feeling like an anchor that weighed her down to a friend that gave her more freedom.
Roberta started engaging in her life again. She and her husband began going back to church, visiting the Grandchildren and last I heard, they were going to go on a flight to see their eldest son and his family in another state and visit for a few weeks! |
| | Looking for some FREE support?
Then here are some options for you:
Listen to the Podcast There is a new episode out every 2nd Thursday. Subscribe to make sure that you don't miss an episode.
Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: I post all of my Facebook live and other videos here so you can watch whenever you wish.
Remember Friend, if you are ready to get the help and support you need to get unstuck from the trauma, anxiety and overwhelm of chronic illness and all of the complex emotional issues that it brings, you can book yourFREE Discovery Session with me now.
You deserve to be heard, believed and supported and investing in your emotional health is one of the best things that you will ever do to help yourself live your best possible life with chronic illness.
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