Subject: Wait your turn (what it really means)

If you're hearing "wait your turn" after being promised (the promotion, raise, new hire, etc.), this is for you

Success Without Sacrifice

N E W S L E T T E R

Anti-hustle strategies for lawyers who want more control, impact, and life.

You’re a high performer. You’ve done everything that’s been asked of you (and more) along your path to:

  • Getting a big raise,

  • Being promoted, or

  • Building your team.

But now that it's time for your employer to deliver, you're hearing…


"The timing isn't right."

"You're on the list, just not this cycle."

"We need to see how the market plays out."


Translation: Wait your turn.


“Wait your turn” is a common refrain associates hear when hoping to get promoted to partnership.


And like most good rule-followers, they do exactly what they're told. They wait, trusting that they'll make it the next year.


But they shouldn’t because it’s risky.


And if you’re hearing something similar (in whatever scenario), it’s risky for you to wait it out, too.

THE PROBLEM:

Ambiguity

"Wait your turn" often sounds reasonable. But it's also ambiguous (and ambiguity is rarely your friend).


Let's take the example of an associate hoping to get promoted to partnership. "Wait your turn' could mean any of the following:

  • You're genuinely next in line.

  • There are concerns (no one has mentioned).

  • Someone else is being prioritized over you (and you don't know why).

  • The goalposts have moved.

Which one applies to you? You don't actually know. No matter how much you think you do.


And the worst part is that doing what you're told (waiting) hands control over to other people.


But this is your career and life, Friend (not theirs).

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR CAREER & LIFE

Clarity + Strategy

Whether you're waiting on partnership, a raise, approval to hire, a practice area shift, or something else entirely, your next steps are the same.


It comes down to two things: Clarity and Strategy.


CLARITY: THE REAL WHY


Your first job is to get behind the vague language. This isn't about asking "when", but finding out what's driving their decision.


And you do that by asking direct questions, such as:

  • What specific concerns (if any) are influencing this timeline?

  • What would need to be true for this to happen sooner?

  • Who else is involved in this decision?

  • What does success look like in the next 6–12 months?

Example: You've been promised a new hire to support your growing book. But every time you bring it up, you're told "not yet."


You need to know whether this is a budgetary issue, uncertainty about your growth trajectory, general economic concerns, or something else entirely (like someone leapfrogging you to get their resources taken care of first).


The answers to your questions will help determine your response.


BUILD + IMPLEMENT A STRATEGIC PLAN


Once you understand what's actually behind the "wait," you can build a plan that addresses it.

  • If the concern is your visibility with leadership, your plan includes getting in front of them more intentionally.

  • If it's about proving your book is sustainable, your plan includes documenting your pipeline and traction.

  • If it's about timing and budget cycles, your plan includes knowing exactly when decisions get made and properly positioning yourself at the right time.

Whatever you're trying to achieve, your plan should include a defined timeline with clear milestones.


For example, let's say you want to transition into a new practice area, but leadership keeps saying "not now."


Your plan might include: building relationships with partners in the target group, developing expertise through secondments or cross-staffing, and creating a proposal that shows how the transition benefits the firm (not just you).


BONUS: INVEST IN RELATIONSHIPS


This should be part of your strategic plan, but I'm highlighting it specifically because it's where most lawyers (and non-lawyers alike) underinvest.


The truth is that your plan won't matter (no matter how well you implement it) if the right people don't know or aren't advocating for you.


Ask yourself:

  • Who actually makes this decision?

  • How well do they know me?

  • Who is actively sponsoring me (that has actual power)?

There's a difference between mentors and sponsors, and you need both.


Mentors give advice. Sponsors have political capital (and spend it on your behalf). Some mentors have political capital and can also be sponsors, but many don't.

IN SUMMARY

Take Control

Taking control of your trajectory doesn't mean demanding what you want or issuing ultimatums. It means turning ambiguity into specifics and making it easier for people to say yes.


XO,

Heather


P.S. If you're a lawyer trying to get promoted to partnership who has recently heard "wait your turn," you'll want to listen to today's Life & Law episode >>>here.


Not only will you learn all the things "wait your turn" could mean, but you'll learn how to go about finding out precisely what it means for you (and then, what to do about it).

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MINDSET, LEADERSHIP & BUSINESS COACHING

A B O U T

H E A T H E R

Former BigLaw partner. Lawyer coach. Cancer survivor. Mom x2. Recovering overachiever.


I traded in my $2.5MM+ practice to help lawyers create the kind of success that doesn’t come at the cost of their well-being.


Learn more about me here.