What secrets do Wonder Woman, Sirens, Greek and Roman Goddesses, Whisperers like myself and Divas have in common?

What secrets do we know about effortlessly attracting amazing men and relationships instead of working hard chasing them, or having to have a “Plan of Attack?”

Would you like to know?

Last week we talked about using dating as therapy.  

Dating in this way is a very powerful tool.  In fact, all my other tools combine seamlessly with it to form my winning coaching strategy. 

And even if you are married, it is a must read and a must “do”.

I still date this way and although I no longer give out phone numbers or meet men, I use the techniques in my everyday life. 

And it works!

I am one happy and confident woman.

Perhaps you’ve seen Part I of this week’s series on my public blog.

Well, part II is specially for my lovely subscribers!!

It speaks to getting you to understand your inner Wonder Woman, your inner Whisperer; the natural Diva inside of you.  

Not the snobbish, arrogant definition of Diva, but Diva that embodies the natural beacon of light that you are. 

Go to my blog at www.coachkatelyn.com and read that too. 

It will help you.

What I am going to speak to today, is the notion that people ARE interested in you….

Men ARE interested in you.

That...you ARE the center of your world and you ARE the one who chooses, who and what is a part of it.

Trust me when I say, “You do not honor yourself by waiting around to be chosen by any man.  You honor yourself and him by being the one who chooses.”

“How can that be?” You ask. “You want me to go out and ask men out or ask my boyfriend to marry me? Are you kidding?”

No, I do not want you to do that.  I want you to start to understand exactly who and what you are to help you understand the privilege that it is to be around you…that by realizing and being the real you, you naturally inspire not just men, although that’s what we are after here, but everyone to want to be part of your world.

Let me ask you something and I want you to be honest:

Do you believe in yourself? 

Do you believe you can have an amazing relationship?

Do you believe you deserve all the abundance that life has to offer including a great man?

Are you willing to try something different to have that great love, that great man?

Is it worth it to you?

I’ll tell you a bit about my history. 

I wasn’t always a great Whisperer or a natural Diva.  I didn’t come with the nickname Wonder Woman like I do now.  I didn’t have the awesome man I have now-and men waiting in the wings if I choose it, like I do now.   

I had a horrible history with men. 

I knew I was quite pretty and I was talented; gifted even.

I was sophisticated.  I knew how to dress and act. But none of it mattered in the long run. Not really.

It would get me dates and even a boyfriend, but it never really got me the whole man.

Even with all my gifts and talent, I was so insecure, so needy, I would do most anything for my man.

My very thin and often disappearing boundaries weren’t serving me and I felt terrible about it.

I gave and gave and what happened? 

I often got dumped or used…. or worse and in the end, I never knew why. 

I was so nice. 

I gave so much of myself and I always ended up in the same place…. loving men who didn’t love me and hating myself for it.

One day, I woke up. 

I figured it out.

I talk about it in detail in my private community and many of you know parts if not all my story, but let’s be safe and say I’d be willing to match my story against the worst of yours.

Sad huh? 

…Sad that it took something awful before I figured it out and even sadder that so many women suffer as deeply as I did and as you may be, as you are reading this….

and none of it is necessary.

I found out that I needed to learn how to RECEIVE.

I learned the recipe for how to stop over-giving, controlling and doing so much.

I began to understand what men need from us and must have from us to really feel like men and act like men.

I learned the secrets of allowing men to do what men need to do around us.

And that is, GIVE.

I cannot tell you how powerful a truth this is.

Once I learned how to stop, lean back and receive graciously and with dignity, my life changed.

Better men started showing up to date me and they stayed.

I got to choose. 

It was fun.

In fact, my man showed up out of the blue, on the day I was shutting down my online dating account. 

It’s a cute story.  He sent me a very short and very sweet email asking simply, if I might give him a chance.

I had more men then I could handle at the time, and that one sentence from a man I did not know, changed my life.

Imagine that.

Once you understand that finding and keeping that special man is about a, “Plan of Attract” and not a “Plan of Attack,”  I promise your life will change like mine did.