| All of this cat and mouse stuff, proves men and women and men are alike in some ways.
It seems like the less we want a man, the more he wants us and the less he wants us, the more intrigued we are with him.
We become determined to make him want us.
After a while, that kind of thing wears on a girl.
I couldn't have the men I wanted, and I didn't want the men who wanted me.
My self confidence in just about every area seemed to dwindle. I no longer trusted myself to attract or keep a good man or even to make a good decision about something totally unrelated.
My lack of self-esteem and confidence got so low that it started to seep into other areas of my life. I found I couldn't make a decision about what car to drive or dress to wear. I was a mess!
But I figured it out.
How can we use what we know about the nature of men and women to help us get and keep the love, men and relationship we want and deserve without playing cat and mouse?
Stay tuned.
Soon after I figured it all out and healed myself, I met my partner. I was not attracted to him at first. But, somehow, he won me over and I fell deeply in love with him.
Things were great for a while.
Then about a year in, everything went south and fast.
What made it even more awful than the other times is that I knew better, and I still let myself slip into old habits.
I so felt anxious and upset most of the time. Those same old gut wrenching feelings from the past came rushing back.
I used to view them as my enemies and in my old way of being, I would have tried everything I could to squash them, push them away or ignore them.
However, this time around instead of sticking my head in the sand, I paid attention to them.
They ultimately became my best friends.
They quickly showed me what I needed…to fix what was broken.
By welcoming and listening to those feeling-friends along with the winning strategy I can teach you, proved it is possible to repair a sinking ship.
My awareness and quick action saved the day.
If you are in this spot right now, the place where I was-the place where you feel so desperate to hold things together, so desperate to do anything this time…
Or even if you are looking for proactive and preventative measures. I want you do to the first step right now.
Do not blame yourself or beat yourself up...NOT while in my care.
And, if you are reading this, you are in my care.
If you decide to take this journey with me, there is so much you will discover. You will gain so many new skills.
And, like I said before, it will be way more fun and rewarding than what you are doing now.
On your journey to lasting love, you will have many "aha", moments.
You will want to wish more than anything that you could go back and have "do-overs."
You may even wonder if you knew then what you know now, would you have lost that marriage or relationship.
You may want to blame you or your man for what happened.
But please don't.
Instead, take a selfie, date it, tuck it away or better yet, send it to me with a brief email of your situation.
Take this journey with me and when we get to the other side, I will ask you for another selfie and we will compare the before and after.
You will be amazed at what you see…and even more amazed at how incredible your love and life can be.
Love in Whispers, Coach Katelyn | 
