One of the most common dangers is obsession. This can take many forms. You can become obsessed with your partner, the spirit or deity you work with, or even the practice in itself. This in turn can develop into an addiction, which acts against you in the long run and makes you stuck at a certain point of your magical development without being able to move on. It is very easy to develop an emotional attitude to what you do or someone you work with, and sometimes this can work in your favor. Obsession in itself is actually nothing bad. It’s simply a form of passion, and passion can fuel your work and keep you dedicated and focused on your goals, happy with what you do and looking forward to the future. But if it turns into an addiction, it may get you stuck, blinded by self-delusion and unable to progress. There is a very thin line between a genuine experience and delusion, and you have to be careful, especially if you find that you cannot go on without something but your efforts are not really bringing any results. For example, in s-x magic we can have s-xual relations with spirits, gods and goddesses, and it is a natural thing to approach them with an emotional attitude. Sometimes, however, these emotions cloud the true image of the god-form and instead of interacting with the genuine entity, we are only dealing with projections of our ego. In consequence, the work may seem wonderful and pleasurable, but it doesn’t lead to any concrete results and simply makes us stuck in delusion.

Another thing to consider is s-xual vampirism, and while approaching certain spirits or god-forms with love and open attitude, we can simply get drained without gaining anything in return or attract vampires and parasites that will create an illusion of “love” only to be able to feed off us. There is a whole chapter about s-xual vampirism in my Rituals of Pleasure, and there we will discuss this question further. What we need to remember is that if we feel exhausted or drained instead of being fulfilled through our s-x magic work, this is usually a signal that something bad is going on. Exhaustion itself doesn’t have to be something negative, though. S-xual trances create conditions in which we experience intense altered states of mind, and low phases following these states are often a normal thing. If, however, they continue for longer periods of time, we should stop and look into the issue. There are also risks awaiting those who want to practice s-xual vampirism on other people - psychic feeding opens way to all kinds of influences: states and moods, high and low emotions, sickness and depression or even entity attachments. In time we learn how to transform this energy into what we want, but before this happens, it may do more harm than good.

S-x itself is an intense experience, releasing a lot of energy. Someone who is not aware of this fact simply lets this energy dissipate or take form on its own, which results in creation of thought-forms, parasites and larvae existing on the astral plane, trying to attach themselves to human beings and feed off their vital force to prolong their existence. Such beings are created because each s-xual act generates psychic force that has to go somewhere. If it doesn’t dissipate, it comes to life as a thought-form. If it’s not released, it can build up inside the body and cause damage and blockages in the internal energy flow, causing health issues, or it can leak out and wreak havoc around the individual, like it is in the case of the poltergeist phenomenon. Each time we clim-x, a new life is created, and we are not talking here about physical conception resulting in a child, but about magical “children,” often created involuntarily. S-xual energy is a powerful force and it is good to be aware of this potential and learn how to use it to our advantage.

Another problem arising from working with god-forms and spirit lovers is that a spirit or deity may become a substitute for a physical partner, thus making you unable to have a relationship in your day-to-day life. This happens rarely, but it is not impossible, so it is good to have it in mind, especially while working with succubi or incubi. To avoid it, you should develop a strong self-confidence, sense of self-worth, and appreciation of your own s-xuality. The risk of this to happen lies in frustration in your daily life, lack of s-xual awareness, or simply inexperience in magic in general.

S-x is the most intimate form of experience. It opens us to all kinds of influences, positive and negative, ecstasy and trauma, fascination and fear. Working with a succubus/incubus is largely about submission and taking all that this experience brings. If you are a controlling type, be it in s-x or in your normal day-to-day life, you may find it hard to work with these spirits. They don’t lie beneath. The whole sense of working with them is to let go, give up control, and let them guide you through the labyrinths of your subconscious mind. If you cannot do that, you will only experience terrible nightmares and night hag attacks known from myths and folklore. Also, if you ever experienced any serious psychological trauma, like being s-xually abused, these memories may be brought to the surface through the contact with demon lovers. On the one hand, this can be beneficial because this way you are given a chance to resolve them. On the other hand, this will not be pleasant, so you really have to be willing to face it. In any case, there is always a danger of deepening your issues instead of resolving them. However, s-x itself opens us to the influence of our partner anyway, regardless if our lover is a spirit or person. All s-x is potentially dangerous, and like any other s-xual situation, the danger depends on how you choose to deal with it. Being intimate with a partner makes us open and vulnerable and always involves a lot of trust if this intimacy is to be taken to a deeper level. Such intimacy can either heal our s-xual issues or make them worse, but there is no rule here, and all depends on how you approach it and how much you are willing to open yourself to this experience.

Other potential risks and dangers are discussed in the particular chapters of the book. If, for whatever reason, you find that your s-x magic work is harmful in some way, stop your practice and look around for a solution. In the case of spirits, usually a simple cleansing or banishing technique is effective in itself, although you can also bind it to a vessel or even absorb it and make it a part of you. In case of people acting in an obsessive, passive-aggressive or violent way, there are other options to consider. In any case, however, do not leave things to develop on their own and always work to take control of the situation.

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Darkest Blessings,