Subject: Thanksgiving and Luck

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  • Thanksgiving and Luck
  • A Memorial Fund for Uncle Eddie
    Please refer to “Uncle Eddie’s Aloha Angel Fund” when making your tax-deductible donation. Tax receipt will be mailed to you. 
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Thanksgiving and Luck

“Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted–a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.”
– Rabbi Harold Kushner

Thanksgiving is just one day away and I am sitting here in Phoenix Arizona reflecting on a word I heard while teaching in Bali Indonesia last month at the 1st Asian Play Therapy Conference. The word is Untung…it means “Lucky.” I learned that no matter what happens, these loving, spiritual people say Untung, acknowledging in a sense, that whatever happens “It’s all good.” In Yiddish we say Beshert, translated means “It’s meant to be.”
During these last several months after the passing of my husband Eddie, I have had a hard time holding onto these words. Life has felt enormously challenging. For me, a major source of inspiration comes from stories. Each one is like a steppingstone on which to support the journey along life’s pathway.

While enjoying a scrumptious Balinese lunch with Alice Arianto, the conference organizer, she shared a story about Good Luck and Bad Luck that continues to speak to me in different ways. I share it with all of you in hopes we can stay alert as well as recognize and give gratitude for Untung.
Good Luck Bad Luck!

There is a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?"

Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?"

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck?

Who knows?

Everything that seems on the surface to be an evil may be a good in disguise. And everything that seems good on the surface may really be an evil. So we are wise when we leave it to God to decide what is good fortune and what misfortune, and thank him that all things turn out for good with those who love him.

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A Memorial Fund for Uncle Eddie
Dear Friends and Family, 

Over the months since Eddie’s passing, so many of you have sent blessings, prayers, and good wishes in many forms asking if there was a fund that had been set up in Eddie’s memory. I continued to say, “Not yet.” 

As it is with inspiration, one day while straightening out papers, I came across a lovely letter from Hospice of the Valley, letting me know about a donation that had been made by his sister Benita. The last paragraph mentioned “Fund development.” I looked up and saw a photo of Eddie standing in front of his beloved Angel shop while we lived on Kaua’i. 

In November, 1993 Uncle Eddie’s Aloha Angeles was opened with the intention of bringing joy and blessings to all who visited. Eddie would come home filled with stories about the wonderful people he met and the moving stories they shared. People from all over the world continued to visit for many years until we moved to Arizona in 2001. 

After reading the letter and seeing Eddie’s smiling face, a spark of inspiration came into my heart. I called Hospice, received information, spoke with our two sons Todd & Casey, and a special fund was set up whereby all contributions would directly benefit the Eckstein Center, the Hospice of the Valley facility where Eddie was so lovingly and skillfully cared for the last days of his life. 

If you should be moved to become a contributor, please send all donations to:
Hospice of the Valley
1510 E. Flower Street
Phoenix, AZ 85014


Please refer to “Uncle Eddie’s Aloha Angel Fund” when making your tax-deductible donation. Tax receipt will be mailed to you. 

With appreciation and love,
Joyce, Todd and Casey Mills
"Inspire hope, embrace change"
Joyce C. Mills PhD, LMFT, LLC

602.923.2704 | 6609 N. Scottsdale Rd. Bldg. G-103, Scottsdale, AZ 85250 
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