90 Day Kink Mini Challenge #3
This week I had a sort of epiphany about my relationship and sex life. I was listening to a podcast on clearing the things that get us stuck, and the speaker said, the first thing you need to do is make sure your priorities are in line with the things you want to manifest in your life. Well, that seems obvious, but I realized that despite the fact that I have cut out pictures and words for a hot sex life for my dream boards the last five years running, I have NOT made sex or my marriage a priority. It was working fine, nothing was broken, so I put it on the back burner to simmer while I worried about raising happy kids and writing hot novels and all the day-to-day issues that go with first world survival.
I realized of course my sex life had languished, because it hasn't been my priority. I'm betting I'm not alone in this, so that's what this challenge is all about!
My goal was to have sex at least once a week. I let it slide last week because I knew I had a date night planned later in the week. But letting it slide was the wrong decision. It's the same lack of prioritizing that landed me where I am now. I am happy to report that we made up for it with double sex this week!
One of my sub goals was to engage in more service submissive acts, because "acts of service" is my husband's main love language. I've been making my husband's favorite foods (lasagna and home made salsa and green tea) and making sure the espresso machine is prepped every night for him before I go to bed.
This past week I also realized that I also needed to work more on "Words of affirmation." It's my lowest scorer on love language (I never believe people when they try to tell me nice things, I just think they're being polite) so consequently, I also don't offer them up as often as I should.
What is your love language? If you haven't taken the quiz, my mini-challenge this week is to take it. Learning how you like to have love expressed and how you express it is important, whether you're in a relationship at present or not.
Let me know how your progress toward your goal is coming or any realizations you have related to the 5 Love Languages!
If you haven't already, I invite you to join us in the FB group (90 Day Kink Challenge). To join it, you have to friend me first (a FB rule--feel free to unfriend me after) and then send me an email or FB message and let me know you'd like me to add you to the group. It's a nice way to feel supported and discuss your progress. If you don't want to join the FB group, feel free to reply to these messages.
Kinky and in love,
Renee
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