“I am worthy of the best things in life, and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.” ~Louise Hay
Hello Friend, Coach Eddie with your South Houston, Premier Boxing for Fitness location here. When many people look back on their lives, they will see that for a long time taking care of their wants and needs were not a priority. Some even would find it uncomfortable or selfish to do so. It ends up where plenty of time and energy goes to everyone else (family, friends and employers). Doing their best to please others and make them happy. And there's nothing wrong about that, however ignoring yourself is a mistake.
We need to learn the self-care is not selfish but fair. You are also a person, worthy of care, attention and most importantly love. So here are some things that can maybe keep you from falling into the trap of taking care of everyone else but you:
1. Do more things for your heart and soul.
If you can’t find time for yourself in your busy agenda, make it. We all have twenty-four hours a day, and your wants and needs are important. Try to spend a little quality time with yourself. It doesn't mean to stop being a social person or that you don't love people. But how can you reconnect with yourself and get grounded, reflect and recharge with others around who can cause you to shift your focus.
Remember you're not a robot and it's good to take breaks. Try taking a nice walk in nature. Like they say smell the roses. Watch a good movie or read a good book. Try listening to relaxing recordings. Treat yourself to a massage. Because you're worth it.
2. Take good care of your body.
Your body is the temple of your soul, and the only one you've got, so make sure to give it nutritious foods and plenty of water. Schedule those much-needed doctor appointments and yearly health checks.Take a nap when you need rest; put your phone on silent and disconnect from the outer world for a while. Surprisingly, the world does not collapse.
3. Set healthy boundaries with the outer world.
One of the most difficult things you may have to learn was how to say no to things you didn’t really want to do, without feeling selfish, guilty, or overly worried that you might hurt or upset someone else.
This can be in your personal relationships (like when you go to a movie with a friend because they ask even though your body only wants to sleep and recharge) but also this can be a challenge at work, when saying yes to tasks can overfill and already full plate. Try speaking up for yourself and see what happens.
Work on setting healthy boundaries and this will take practice. You have to learn how to say no to things you don't really want to do without fearing it may disappoint others. Setting boundaries in a relationship might look selfish to the outer world. In reality, it is a form of self-respect, self-love, and self-care.
4. Let go of the “do it all” mentality.
In a society that values human worth through how well we do things in life (based on individual results, goals, and achievements), most of us have forgotten just to be. Everyone is in a hurry, doing something or running somewhere. Many of us have even started to feel guilty for doing nothing.
But here’s what I believe: Doing nothing doesn’t necessary mean I’m lazy. As long as it comes from an empowering place of choice—my own choosing—doing nothing is an action!
6. Love and approve of yourself, as you are.
I’ll be brutally honest with this one: It's often easy to put other people’s needs above your own not because you genuinely want to help others. In some cases, it's because you want people to like you. You may want to be seen as someone who could handle everything in your private life and career so that people would perceive you as invincible, irreplaceable, and strong. Especially at work, you want to feel important, valuable, and needed.
According to Maslow’s pyramid of human needs, we all have a basic need to feel a sense of belonging to a group or community. However, if the cost is living behind a mask and having a hidden agenda, our relationships can become inauthentic, unhealthy, and even toxic.
Once you learn to approve of yourself unconditionally and treat yourself as if you were your own best friend, you don't need others to validate you.
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Once you began to take care of yourself—body, mind, and soul—you can start to feel happier and more balanced, energized, and alive. Investing in your self-care can be the best decision you could ever make, and a life changing one.
Committed to Your Health and Success,
Coach Eddie Akan Studio Manager Premier Boxing for Fitness 510 Wisconsin St. South Houston, TX 77587 Studio Number : 713-794-6454 www.premierboxingforfitness.com coacheddie@premierboxingforfitness.com |
