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Hi Friend,

How can I build my self esteem and confidence?

This is a question I get asked so often. I can't give you an
answer in one sentence however...

Today I have something special for you that will answer this
question and help you build the life you want, a life with more
confidence and happiness.

So here is what is in my message today:

1. One of the most important steps to build your self esteem
2. How to get my 5 step self esteem course free plus lots of
other inspiring articles and videos written by me that WILL
motivate you and lead you to more self esteem quickly.

3. Get my CD - "A More Confident You" and learn how to build your
confidence and enjoy your life more

Ok, on with today's message...

(this is one small part of my five part self esteem course -
members of "Aspire to be You" can read all five parts of this
exciting course)

Accepting who you are

Accepting who you are and what you value is one sure way to
improve your level of self-esteem and confidence. When you know
who you are and you are happy with that you don’t have to
pretend to be someone else. What’s more, you don’t have to
spend energy justifying your decisions and thoughts to others.

There are actually two sides to this:

1) Are you honest with yourself about who you are and what you
want?

This is the worst kind of self denial but so many people actually
pretend to themselves that they are different from the person
they really are.

2) Do you know who you are and what you want but conform to
other’s ideas of you and try to be the person they expect you
to be?

Denying who you really are will create a number of problems in
your life. Some of these problems can affect you personally and
some will affect how others treat you.

Let's look at some of these problems in more detail:

Low self esteem - denying who you are or being blind to what you
really want means you may suffer from low self esteem. Why you
suffer from low self esteem is because your emotions are telling
you that you’re not doing the right thing and that you should
change.The only way that your brain can send you this message is
by making you feel bad.

Living a lie - if you do not accept yourself you may push
yourself towards a life which is not truly the one that you want.
If you feel that you are living a life which other people love
but you're not happy with then this may be your problem.

Unhappiness - you will not be enjoying life because you are
ignoring your inner voice and your heart’s desires.

Feeling like a victim - if you do not accept yourself you may
believe what others tell you and become a victim. The truth is
that you are a victim of your own negative mindset.

No belief in yourself - low self confidence can follow when you
are unsure of who you are and what you want.

So what happens when you accept yourself and who you are?

Self-acceptance means that you understand who you are and where
your strengths and weaknesses lie. You know what you want. This
will allow you to be comfortable with your place in the world.

Just try and think for a moment about a time, maybe a certain
day, when everything was wonderful in the world and you were
truly happy. Chances are you were doing exactly what you wanted
to do or you were exactly where you wanted to be and you felt
really in harmony with your surroundings and desires.

Now take a moment to remember a time or place when you were
really unhappy and felt really bad. You may even be feeling
really bad at the moment so if that’s the case ask yourself
why. Probably you were doing something you didn’t really want
to do and your emotions were telling you that you’d rather be
doing something else.

You should be trying to move towards a situation where you are
truly happy and that can only happen when you follow what your
heart desires.

When you accept yourself you can also value yourself and tell
others that they should respect who you are. You will also be
able to accept others and not demand that they try to reach your
standards.

Self acceptance leads naturally towards self confidence and this
will enable you to live a life in which you can better achieve
your potential and are more likely to succeed. You’ll be at
ease with people, be able to speak in public and feel good about
yourself, shyness will disappear and you will have no fear about
the challenges which you set yourself to improve your life.

When you can build your self confidence you will live a life free
of self criticism and you can begin to face the challenges in
your life and succeed…

Imagine being at ease with people, being able to speak in public
and feel good about yourself, no more shyness or fear.

What steps can you take to increase your self acceptance?

Take time to think about who you are and what makes you tick,
what do others like about you? Make a list now…

Understand that there are both positive and negative aspects of
whoyou are and you should accept both. When you focus on your
good points and spend time improving yourself your life will have
become so much more blessed.

Are there things about yourself which you don't like? Ok, maybe
you can improve, but first acknowledge them and accept them.

Are you trying to be something you're not? Why? Wouldn't it be
better to be you? Make a few notes about what you’d like to
change…

Get free access to the FULL 5 part Self Esteem Course PLUS get my
CD "A More Confident You" (and a lot more helpful articles,
audios and videos too):

http://www.karlperera.com/freecd/

Need a bit more information about the self esteem boosting stuff
you'll get?

When you click above you'll get the chance to receive my CD "A
More Confident You" which teaches you how to become more
confident and be happier as a result.

You'll get the CD FREE (pay for postage only) AND 30 days access
to the Self Esteem Course and many other articles, audios and
videos inside the membership area of "Aspire to be You"

What is inside "Aspire to be You"?

currently some of the material: 5 step self esteem course, "find
the good" - change your focus, writing therapy (using writing to
improve your emotional wellbeing), report - positive steps for
personal development, welcome video, how to get started guide,
interviews with professionals and psychologists,a series of
articles about how to find happiness....and much more

Get access and my CD now:

http://www.karlperera.com/freecd/

Speak next week,

Karl Perera

Life Coach and Author of Self Esteem Secrets