When you aren't sure what action to take, it might be better to take no action and to observe.
Notice the thoughts that get you down and the ones that make you happy.
Notice what matters to your loved ones.
Really notice what an instructor deems to be most important.
Notice where you are truly needed and where you are not.
Notice how what you say could make a situation worse or better.
Notice what is important in this moment and what is not.
The best way to understand your world, Friend, is to be still and observe.