Hello Friend,

She had the better idea.

She said it first, clearly in the meeting, and the room moved past it.

Ten minutes later, he said almost the same thing.

And the room leaned in. Nods. "Great point." The idea became his.

Now she over-prepares, over-explains & adds the extra slide just so no one can overlook her again. And she's overlooked again.

Here's what no one told her:

When you over-explain, the room doesn't hear competence. It hears someone asking to be believed. The harder you work to be taken seriously, the more you signal that you're not sure you deserve to be.