Although it seems your self-love is a personal thing and has only to do with you, people in your life can make a huge impact on your lack of it.
People In Your Life Cause You To Feel Wrong Or Bad
Differing personality styles is (in my experience) the main reason for interpersonal conflict.
If people in your life are different or even opposite styles, they think differently, do things differently, and feel differently than you.
You may think you are doing things all wrong.
In fact, some styles are very quick to judge and tell you to change because they think they have it all figured out. They think they are helping but it can make you feel broken and unlovable.
Examples of how conflict arises due to different personality styles:
- Your boss wants a quick decision but you need details and time to think. You don't make snap decisions like he or she does and you feel angry, pressured, or stressed about it.
- Your sister is the life of the party and tells you to get out more, make some friends, and enjoy life or you will never find love. But you feel most comfortable with just a few close friends and are more of a homebody. You may feel you're doing it all wrong but you are just different personality styles.
- Maybe you fly by the seat of your pants and your spontaneity and lack of attention to detail drives your co-worker crazy. You're just different styles, but it can really feel like you are doing things wrong around certain people.
It takes quite a bit of confidence and understanding to know we are doing things right (for us) when everyone is saying the opposite.
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