Hey Friend,
Your self-talk can build your self-confidence by making you feel safe and strong. It can also sabotage your self-confidence without you realizing it.
Here is one example of how it works...
Whatever is spoken after the words “I am” or “I’m” or "my" is accepted by your subconscious mind as part of your identity (whether it’s healthy or dangerous).
How to switch your language from self-sabotage to self-confidence: - my rape → the rape
- my abuser → the abuser
- my cancer → the cancer
- I have cancer → there's a cancer diagnosis
- I need to lose weight → I'm lighter and healthier every day (add feelings of already being happy with your body AND watch video below) ♦
- my toxic coworker → the toxic person at the office
- I'm sorry → I apologize (something you DO, instead of something you ARE)
- I'm an alcoholic → I'm strong and healthy (add feelings of already being strong and healthy)
See how you are separating yourself from the thing you don't want to be, do, or have instead of accepting it as part of you? It even feels better doesn't it?
If someone else (yes, even your doctor or therapist) says, “YOUR rape,” or “YOUR cancer,” etc., they are giving YOU ownership of it! Tell them to call it “THE rape" or “THE cancer." (They should already know this and most don't. AND ultimately, your self-confidence is YOUR responsibility.)
Small things you do daily can build your self-confidence. Self-talk is a quick and easy place to start. Make it a game you play.
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