How are you doing, Friend?
Taking actions personally means placing too much emphasis on
another’s words or behaviors. The hurt you experience makes it easier to
become offended. Taking actions personally means that you are allowing
another’s behavior to get to you. Their words become harmful to you.
Taking actions personally means you feel invalidated. To be invalid
means to be wrong or weak.
It’s possible to be wrong in a factual way. I thought it was too hot outside, but you are right, it’s actually pleasant.
Even though being wrong in this way can be hard for some people, it
doesn’t usually result in becoming offended. It’s also possible to feel
wrong in a personal way. I failed to recognize my daughter is sad; I am defective. That feeling of being defective is shame. It cuts to the core. It is a state of not feeling accepted or wanted for who you are.
Matt
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