It really was my pleasure to work
with you folks over the weekend.
I trust you've already begun
to implement this new model of
of relating, all in the face of not
Here are some of the resources I
mentioned. I've included a link to
my slides, along with my "S.O.S.
1.Below is the link to my slides.
Many participants cut out the slide
of the "Sacred Circuit" (or any one
of them for that matter) to post on
their bathroom mirror or their fridge,
(Please respect my copyright. These slides are
2. Here is the link to my S.O.S. Tool:
This tool will remind you of the basic
steps to follow to carry out a repair
quickly. Reminder: Genuinely
owning your part does NOT
REMEMBER: Keep the "story"
about WHY you reacted the way
you did out of the mix. Stay focused
on "what happened" not on "why it
Receive your partner's acknowledgment
by letting their words fully "land". Let
what they said "be" and don't add
anything or take anything away.
Respond with a simple "thank you".
NOTICE: The repair can go off the
rails if / when you start critiquing
one another's acknowledgment.
(That would be the time to say
"oh yeah... she said that would
happen... let's have a re-do")
Don't let yourself collapse anything
else into this conversation. Keep it
very simple by focusing on your part
only and receiving the other's part.
Be present and genuine/authentic
If you can't do this, it's a sign you
are likely not regulated. The whole
intention of this practice is to quickly
clean up the space between you -
not to debate a point or be
3. From time to time my emails will
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Please feel free to contact me if you
have any burning questions or concerns
about anything you learned over the two
days we spent together. Once again,
thank you both for being coachable and
committed to the quality of your lives.
You are truly an inspiration.
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